Because I have a horrible habit of gaining weight when I travel, I frequently check my weight before I leave home so I can see "how bad it is" when I return. On this outing to the Santa Fe Intensive, I actually lost 10 pounds while I was away. Further, I have lost an additional 10 pounds since I returned. I don't seem to be "doing" anything to accomplish this. I pretty much eat whatever is at hand and sounds appealing at the time that I am hungry. Funniest thing though, I am rarely actually hungry and when I do eat, I only consume about one-half "fist-full." And foods that used to appeal to me no longer have much attraction. I find that if I crave anything, it seems to be a salad or piece of fruit. Obviously, my appetite is down and my desire to eat is down. I just don't want to eat very much. In examining this, I find there is another compulsive behavior which I have also abandoned and two others which don't hold much interest and, even if I get into them, don't hold my attention. I am reminded about what they say in AA, "it may not make you sober but it sure messes with your drinking." I haven't conquered all addictive behaviors but it is sure difficult to pursue them and pretend I am not acting out in an addiction! Inner Bonding and it's 6-Steps seems to be changing my life about as dramatically as it was changed when first began to pursue the 12-Steps of Recovery. It is influencing how I spend my time and whether I feel that an activity is actually "worth" my energy or would rather put my time on something different. People who know me remark that "something is different." People who see me say I am more calm, less driven. People who talk to me on the phone say there is a level of excitement in my voice they haven't heard before. I know that this is just a beginning for me. I know that this is all still new. I accept that some of this may be the "pink cloud" but it feels pretty solid and real. I think this is because instead of having a sense of having "given something up" I am feeling that I don't have a need for it anymore. No doubt you have heard all this many times before so the info probably isn't anything new. My purpose is to let you know that it is still happening and I am thrilled.
Marti Neal

"I tell everyone about Inner Bonding.  It sort of flips some of the ways of being in the world on it's head.  I've been into spirituality and personal growth since reading Gary Zukav's Seat of the Soul at 14.  I'm a certified somatic therapist, and have done numerous workshops, types of therapy,  and retreats.  Inner Bonding was truly the missing piece for me.  Even though I had done psycoscophy and worked with subpersonalities and inner child work, nothing simplifies it or is as empowering as Inner Bonding…. I really, really would like to see the word get out about Inner Bonding and it be taught in AA, NA, Unity Church, and any and everywhere that people are ready and open to healing… I have woken up in the middle of the night and been unable to go back to sleep chronically off-and-on for 12 years.  Inner Bonding is totally healing me!! I've been sleeping all though the night."

Inner Bonding is the greatest process ever! Margaret Paul is an inspired genius! Does this sound a little too effusive? Well, yes, probably I am biased because I am an Inner Bonding facilitator, but let's put the chicken before the egg here: I trained to become a facilitator after I experienced the huge difference the process made in my life, and as I witnessed the enormous changes in myself and others who used the 6 Steps. I wanted to bring to others what Inner Bonding and Margaret Paul brought to me. So if you are serious about healing yourself, if you really mean business when it comes to changing your disfunctional behaviors, if you really want a method to engage productively in conflict with others, then jump on the Inner Bonding train. The destination is your own, and the journey is well worth it!
Nancy Weston

Inner bonding in general, has been a refining tool. After much experience with effective traditional therapies, I use inner bonding to empower myself, and to develop spiritual guidance. It is particularly helpful when traditional cognitive therapy reaches its maximum effectiveness for me and I still need "more". In addition to using a rational, analytical approach, as does cognitive therapy, inner bonding transcends the rational mode by engaging and encouraging spirituality, whatever that may mean for any given individual.
Cher Gunderson

You know how everyone says life is difficult? Even in Inner Bonding people say, "Oh, life's still difficult." That used to really frustrate me. I was afraid that difficult meant unending misery, and I was trying to avoid that at ALL costs! So when I was introduced to Inner Bonding I thought, "This is it! This is how I can fix my life and it won't be difficult anymore." Well, life still IS difficult, but now when difficult feelings come up, I can actually feel them, and I no longer believe I will be swallowed whole by them. I've also learned that they pass rather quickly. My feelings are no longer in control of me. Instead, they are a part of my life. Now my life includes more joy, learning, and understanding. I love my life; I love learning about myself, and others. And I love feeling; even difficult feelings.
Carie King

I AM 39YO AND I WISH THAT I WOULD HAVE LEARNED ABOUT THIS A LONG TIME AGO. I JUST STARTED THE STEPS AND WHEN I GOT TO STEP 2 I STOPPED. MY MATE JUST LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER AND I DECIDED TO "FEEL THE FEELINGS" RATHER THAN REACT. IT'S A MIRACLE. I LOVE THIS THING! IT'S SHOWING ME HOW TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY! I LOOK FORWARD TO COMPLETING THE COURSE AND GROWING. KNOWING THAT IT'S A PROCESS.
KEVIN COWAN