Managing Anxiety and Panic Attacks

By Dr. Margaret Paul
December 31, 2006

Do you suffer from anxiety and panic attacks? Have you tried many things that have not worked? Discover how to heal the underlying cause of anxiety and panic attacks.

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Your heart is pounding and you have palpitations and chest pains. You are sweating profusely, shaking uncontrollably, having trouble getting a breath, and you feel light-headed and unsteady. You have a lump in your throat and feel like you can't swallow, along with sensations of smothering, and you feel like you might throw up. Are you having a heart attack? Not likely, because you are only 27 years old. So what is happening to you?

The chances are you are having a panic attack.

What causes panic attacks? The physiological cause is that a small, almond-shaped organ in the limbic system of the brain, called the Amygdala, gets activated and creates the extreme reaction in the body. But what triggers the Amygdala?

Panic attacks are triggered by thoughts from the wounded self. The thoughts are about bad things that can happen, thoughts that create fear, and even thoughts about having a panic attack. Panic attacks are very frightening because it feels like you might die, even though people do not die from panic attacks. For some people, the more panic attacks they have, the more they are afraid of them, and them more they trigger them with their fear. It becomes a vicious circle.

Once anxiety or a panic attack is triggered, it is very difficult to stop it. The key is to stop it before it occurs, or stop it just as it is occurring. The most effective method I have found for this is EFT - the Emotional Freedom Technique.

EFT is a system of tapping on the end-points of acupuncture meridians while thinking the thoughts that trigger the feelings and feeling the feelings of the anxiety or panic. I suggest that anyone who has anxiety or panic learn this method. An excellent and inexpensive way of learning this method is to order David Gruder's CD on EFT, which you can do by calling our office at 888-646-6372. David was my teacher for this process and does a truly excellent job of teaching this very useful tool. Another way of learning EFT is to go to the website, emofree.com.

Once you have been able to lower your anxiety level with EFT, you then need to diligently practice Inner Bonding. Practicing Inner Bonding gives you the awareness of the lies from your wounded self that are causing the anxiety and panic, and develops your connection with the truth from your spiritual Guidance. The more you connect with your Guidance and operate from the truth, the less anxious you will feel. Anxiety and panic always come from the lies of the wounded self, while inner peace comes from being in truth.

The more you practice Inner Bonding and are able to stay connected with your Guidance throughout the day, the more you will be in charge of your thoughts. The practice if Inner Bonding gives you the ability to stop generating thoughts FROM your mind and instead allow the truth to come THROUGH your mind.

When you are generating thoughts from your mind, you are in your ego wounded self. When you are using your mind as a receiver and allowing the thoughts to come through your mind from your Guidance, you are a loving Adult. The more you are able to be a loving Adult, the less anxiety and panic you will experience.

EFT is a tool to help you lower your anxiety level so that you can practice Inner Bonding. But it is the consistent practice if Inner Bonding that eventually moves you out of your wounded self and into your loving Adult - into the inner peace that comes from allowing your spiritual Guidance to be in charge of your thoughts and actions.

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Serenity Ottawa Canada	I suffer from extreme anxiety and panic attacks which have controlled my behaviour and my emotions most of my life (I am 40). I have a partner now who has been terrific in trying to be there for me in whatever way I need him to be which has been a godsend. He tries very hard to understand and helps me avoid getting trapped. This has allowed me to venture further from home than I ever have been able to and it has been wonderful. One example is ... he knows that the thought of going on a cruise is very anxiety provoking for me and I wouldn't consider EVER EVER going but has helped me find a way that I can do so in order to feel SAFE. This FEELS very loving to me and allows me to do so much more in my life and I am so hoping not to find out that this is wrong to do or unhealthy. I will continue to work on with my IC on IB so that I will no longer need these 'escapes' but for now, his support and help to allow me what I need to feel safe would be hard to live without.	05/16/2007 05:38 AM
whitewave	Hi Serenity, I have also been an anxious person, and I've always had a lot of panic attacks, social anxiety and agoraphobia. Have you ever tried EFT? It has been a miracle for me. It completely cured my panic attacks, and it gets rid of the anxiety. It's very easy. I would actually become so anxious that I might feel anxious or panicky, that I would have a panic attack! So I found it helpful to tap on, "Even though I'm afraid I'm going to have a panic attack...I deeply and completely accept myself." There's a really good e-book called "EFT for anxiety and panic attacks" by Dr. Carol Solomon that I got on her web site and it helped me tremendously.	05/17/2007 04:14 AM
Serenity Ottawa Canada	Wow! Sounds like a miracle. I can't imagine that working but ..heck, I am willing to try anything. Thanks for the info. I will definitely look into it. :-)	05/17/2007 08:56 AM
TownsendS Nokomis	What is EFT? Guess I can look it up on the web. I began having panic attacks and anxiety at about 40, 4 years ago. I was not completely happy in my marriage of 13 years. Since my divorce, I started out feeling independent only finding that I always need a man in my life, a serious relationship. I have been through 2, and was sad when they didn't turn out to be exactly what I needed in a relationship. I have now met a wonderful man, one who I feel is my soulmate but we live on opposite sides of the the U.S. He will be moving here in Jan. but the wait is killing me. I have all sorts of doubts, even though I know they are unfounded. Being alone (without a man here and now) I believe is the source of my anxiety now. I have my daughter who is 20 and friends, but it is not the same. Looking for some answers. Suanne	11/08/2007 01:31 PM
Merry West Islip New York	Hi Suanne, I've been dealing with panic attacks for a long time. When I started doing Inner Bonding is when they started to subside. I found that when I developed a loving adult that my little girl trusted would take care of her they started to lessen. EFT works really well too. Another thing that really helped was learning about the role that magnesuim plays. Peter Gillham has done the research on this and has a wonderful product called CALM which restores magnesium levels to a healthy amount. Since I have been doing all 3 of these things my panic has totally gone. I have to say though I think Inner Bonding has helped the most. It's taken 4 years of pretty intense work but they are pretty much gone and when they return as times it's usually because my loving adult went missing for a time. Hope that helps. Merry	11/08/2007 01:58 PM
babette Golden Valley Minnesota	hi suanne...just wanted to jump in b/c i have struggled with similar things. take this all with a grain of salt, if it's helpful. i too have had a really deeply held belief that i need a man to survive/be happy. it's a cultural thing, a gender thing, and a family of origin thing for me. when i saw this i thought 'maybe you are feeling anxious b/c you are internally giving your power away again by what you are telling yourself and your little girl is upset about repeating a pattern.' meaning...you are telling yourself that you can't be happy without a guy and also that your anxiety is about getting this guy to hurry up and move and be with you. i think why these relationships are not turning out to be 'exactly what you need' is b/c you're the only one who can meet those needs. it might be good for the health of this next relationship to work through a little of that stuff...and in fact his not being there is perfect opportunity to get your house in order and greet him with a clean slate...and a lot less pressure. if he's not "meeting needs" you can instead focus on exchanging love - out of a place of generosity and health. As hard as it may seem to believe...being alone probably isn't the source of your anxiety. I've been alone a while now, and i can tell you that with someone or without, my feelings, wounds and needs are still with me as much as ever. Having someone around to take the edge off (or, conversely, trigger the feelings) is nice for a while, but in the end, the feelings are all still there waiting for me. My guess is that this anxiety goes a lot deeper than this current scenario, and it's waiting for you to heal it. I'm sure others have insights on this too...	11/11/2007 10:02 AM
TownsendS Nokomis	Thank you so much for responding. My focus has been to keep telling myself that I am a good person, I have work, family and hobbies to keep me busy. Still having trouble getting to the roots of my insecurity. Am trying journaling now and reading The Secret, The Law of Attraction, and Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy.	11/11/2007 03:22 PM
TownsendS Nokomis	I guess I am still trying to develop a loving adult. It seems hard because of my doubts of being happy alone. What is EFT? I have seem CALM, I used to get it for a friend of mine as a sleep aid. I am taking a very, very low dose of an antidepressant and .25 mg.of Klonopin at night. I gave up caffine a long time ago and cannot do sugar at night. I have recently given up artificial sweeteners. I am going through menopause and am working with my doctor to get tested to use an all natural estrogen cream compounded by my pharmasist for my individual profile. I will look into the calm for myself. Thanks alot. Suanne	11/11/2007 03:27 PM
Phyllis St. Louis Missouri	Dear Suzanne Maybe you are already doing this, but you did not mention asking your little girl what you are telling her that is causing her anxiety. Even though the programs that we incorporate when we are growing up cause our wounded ways of taking care of ourselves, our feelings are caused in the present by the fact that these programs are running now. When we tell ourselves that we don't really have any reason to feel the way we do, it actually discounts the little one inside who is being hurt by our wounded self and trying to tell us about it. If you are not working with a facilitator, I would suggest that some phone sessions would be really helpful. It sounds like you are really committed to finding a better way. Hugs Phyllis	11/11/2007 04:27 PM
TownsendS Nokomis	I am probably telling her that I need a loving man in my life to feel really happy, but what if that's the way I really feel? I love to be a couple and have someone to hold. I need to look into the phone sessions, I only have a cell phone. Thanks, P.S. no Z in my name, Suanne	11/12/2007 01:17 AM
Phyllis St. Louis Missouri	Hello Susanne (sorry about the "z") Imagine that you are the parent of a real little girl who is turning to you to make her world safe and you are telling her "Sorry, I can't. I need a Daddy in order for you to feel safe and loved and I am putting all of my energy into finding one. In fact, I am putting so much energy into finding on that I can't pay attention to you at all." How would this child feel? The truth is that you can learn to take care of your little girl, that, in fact, you can even bring her the things a daddy would bring. It does not happen overnight and you don't have to do it on your own, without any support from friends, but it is the belief itself that is actually causing much anxiety. More than that, you really do not want to attract a man who will take responsibility for your little girl. That is another conversation. Unless your concern is running out of minutes, doing phone sessions using a cell phone is not an issue if you can get consistent reception. Some facilitators work in the evening and on weekends when you probably have free minutes. I would, however, suggest getting a headset-not the little one that falls out of your ear and you can hardly hear on, but one that goes over your head and has a mike near your mouth. They have them at Best Buy type places or on line. Holding a cell phone to your head while trying to tune in is challenging. That really goes for any phone session- a headset is a real help. Hugs Phyllis	11/12/2007 05:02 AM
TownsendS Nokomis	Thanks Phyllis, I will buy the headset and get hooked up with a phone session. I believe it will really help me. Have a great Thanksgiving. We all have a lot to be thankful for. Suanne	11/21/2007 03:10 AM
Phyllis St. Louis Missouri	Good for you, and I am glad to report that I finally got you name right, Suanne:-) Very nice name! Good luck in your phone session. I know it will be really helpful. Hugs Phyllis	11/21/2007 04:53 AM

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