Daily InspirationWe do not cause others' wounded feelings - such as anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, jealousy - or resulting behavior, nor do others cause our wounded feelings and behavior. Each of us has the free will to choose in each moment to be honest or dishonest, open or closed, accepting or judgmental, loving or unloving. Today, let go of trying to control others' feelings and behavior, and let go of blaming others for yours. By Dr. Margaret Paul
Just LoveBy Diana Elise
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Do you sometimes feel stuck in your wounded/false self? In this article, learn a simple yet powerful tool to help open your heart and access your spiritual guidance.
Recently I had been going through some personally challenging times, dealing with the end of a relationship that had meant a great deal to me. I found that I often felt stuck in my wounded self, feeling like a victim and blaming the other. I had trouble moving into an intent to learn and being able to open my heart.
So I went to one of my favorite places in the world; a small cabin by a creek, to nurse my wounds and see if I could get reconnected with my feelings and my guidance about this situation. Spending time in nature, especially next to moving water, has always been a great source of nurturing and healing for me.
As I sat by the water and tuned into my feelings, I realized that, as aware as I was of the beauty surrounding me, I did not feel connected to it. My heart was still closed and I was cut off from being able to feel any joy or true appreciation of that beauty. So I asked for help. I asked my guidance, (even though at that moment I did not feel any connection to it) "What can I do to open my heart?"
Immediately an answer came into my mind: "First, just by asking the question, you have opened to the intent to learn. Now...just love. Find something, anything that you genuinely love now or have loved, and love it/them. If you can't feel it now, remember them, think of them and love, without any agenda"
So I tried that. I focused on the beauty of the water tumbling over the rocks and the deep blue of the summer sky, and how much I loved being there to witness this beauty. And in that moment, in an instant, I was infused with the warmth of a deep love mixed with gratitude. My heart was open! As simple as that, I was now able to feel compassion for the deep sadness over the loss of this relationship; to bring this compassion down to the part of me that was hurting. And then to access my guidance for other actions I could begin to take to help me through this challenging time.
I have since used this simple yet powerful technique many times, whenever I am feeling particularly stuck in my wounded self and having trouble moving into an intent to learn. I have found that it often works best when I choose something simple to "just love": a pet, nature. Something that it's easy to not have an "agenda" around. Then, after my heart is open, I can more easily move through the rest of the steps of inner bonding.
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