Daily Inspiration
Today, be willing to make love your highest priority - higher than avoiding pain, higher than getting love, higher than having control over others and outcomes. When love is your highest priority, you will connect with Spirit. By Dr. Margaret Paul
We so wanted to blame each other for our ills and unhappiness - it was so much easier!! Since we have been doing Inner Bonding, we realized that whatever made us unhappy was ourselves, and that truly taking responsibility for our own lives in every way was the key to a successful relationship. We have become much closer emotionally, sexually, and in every other way. We have acknowledged to one another that we are happier now than we were in those first exciting months of dating.
Art and Judy Ross
True emotional intimacy, and especially sexual intimacy for me (I've
learned) can only exist when I am open to being my authentic self. Intimacy
starts with me. The Inner Bonding work I've done both individually and as a
couple has allowed me to recognize the beauty within me, and ultimately,
free myself of deep fears which meddled in my relationships for far too
long. Eventually, every relationship in my life blossomed and deepened as I
continued to grow and learn to act from loving kindness, first with myself,
and then with others, allowing me to be available for truly soulful
relationships.
"Thank you Margaret for being a source of light for me to find myself."
Jeff Frymer
"I figured out, being a trauma survivor, that if I was ever to recover from my eating disorder I would have to take very good care of that little girl that I once was. I was going to have to tell her that I would always be there for her and I was going to take good care of her. Today… I don't feed my little girl sugar or flour. I only give her water, proteins, vegetables, starch and oil/seeds. I exercise 5-6 times/wk doing aerobics on my rebounder. My little girl is happy that I am taking good care of her and feels loved by the good parent she now has. I learned from Inner Bonding that I needed to bond with the little girl inside because my mother did not bond with me. I learned to go to my real source of love which is God who provides spiritual guidance to me. I asked God to be my mother and father. God guides me as I grow and develop my relationship with him. I have lost 13 pounds in the past 7 weeks."
CS
"By learning to take personal responsibility for our own “stuff,” we are able to enjoy the true essence of one another. Our love continues to retain the passion, intimacy, and playfulness that we shared when we first met."
Jeff and Elaine
"The inner bonding work has completely changed my life and my relationship for the better. My husband and I went from a relationship that was surely headed for divorce (or misery) to the most fulfilling and connected relationship I have ever experienced! (More than I ever even imagined was possible.) We are now able to communicate freely and openly about all areas of our life, money, emotions, sex. We both feel free to relate to each other openly without fear of the other's reaction."
Danielle Koprowski
"Inner Bonding has improved our relationship and our parenting, by giving each of us the tools to recognize, understand, and move beyond power struggles. As a result, we are each able to stay in a deeply loving place more and more continuously, and we bounce back much quicker if either or both of us goes into a wounded place. It's great that we both practice IB as we can get feedback from each other and can enjoy deep learning and spiritual growth together."
Emily Agnew and Duke Duchscherer
Grace Through Growth, Growth Through Grace
"Grace," as we define it, is the gift of deep joy that we sometimes feel for no reason at all. It comes over us and fills us with a profound sense of wellbeing. It is one of the best feelings ever! The incredible feeling of Grace lets us know that we are never alone - that we are always being guided in our highest good.
"Growth" is the process of healing the programmed false beliefs and protective, controlling behaviors of our ego wounded self that cause shame and disconnection, and moving into love and truth.
When we make the decision to heal our wounded selves and move into love and truth - we open the door to the experience of Grace. As we experience more Grace, we continue to open to learning about truth and love. Thourghout this journey Grace supports us in our growth.
The Grace of Spirit that you experience through your Inner Bonding® practice moves you beyond shame and emotional dependency and into emotional freedom.
Emotional freedom means that you are no longer dependent upon others, their approval, or attention to feel safe, worthy, and lovable. Grace gives you the emotional freedom to define your own worth and bring the love to yourself that you may not have receive as a child and for which you have always yearned.
Grace gives you the wisdom and desire to let go of your attachment to outcomes. Grace is a state of living beyond the struggle to control other people. Grace is the ability to live fully in this present moment.
The practice of Inner Bonding® creates Grace Through Growth and Growth Through Grace
Here is how some of our members define Grace Through Growth and Growth Through Grace:
"I guess my first interpretation of "Growth Through Growth, Grace Through Growth" is that I have to take the first step towards action, change, and that once I do, not only will I grow but that as I grow, the divine, the holy, the sacred comes alongside me to aid me in the steps I take. Just typing that fills me with gratitude and awe..."
"Being in awareness of my thoughts and feelings allows for discernment about what is helpful and what isn't. What is 'mine to work' and what I need to ask for Guidance about and to release from my illusions of control. The growth that arises from all this is Grace indeed. Inner Bonding® provides the loving structure for coming into graceful awareness."
"Growth Through Grace: in my eyes "grace" means the opposite of a victim mentality and the opposite of blaming and complaining. To me it means maturity and kindness. So, when you manage to be in a state of grace, then that means you have been growing and it also means that your mind is open for further growth as it is not obscured by the wounded self mentality.
Grace Through Growth: your frequency and your happiness, your grace, rise as you progress and grow. The growth that you have achieved gives you an even more healthy mentality, more grace."
"This is so huge since in my opinion anything not of grace is just control and protecting. We just can't have freedom unless that means we are waiting before Spirit to strengthen us to take the next responsible step. Our intention is big here. Do I intend to live by grace or just get enough to cope with the current crisis? Am I in the flow of love and grace or just grabbing for a quick taste?"
" Growth through Grace, Grace through Growth is the process of growing emotionally under the gentleness and love of a spiritual hand and becoming a loving being through this growing experience."
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