Daily InspirationIf someone's rejecting or controlling behavior triggers your wounded self, instead of trying to change the other person, use the situation as an opportunity to explore and heal the fears and false beliefs of your wounded self. Each painful interaction gives us the opportunity to grow rather than to just react. By Dr. Margaret Paul
"Inner bonding has helped us to love and care for ourselves, so that we share our lives and love from a full and connected place without codependent expectations. We focus on our own highest good and support this in each other. This has allowed us to feel truly free, empowered, deeply loving and supported in our journey together."
Sylvia and Sean
"By teaching us how to take full responsibility for ourselves in relationship, Inner Bonding helped us move from codependency toward real intimacy. Inner Bonding taught us how to recognize and then own and transform the things we have projected onto each other, whether it be our darkness or our beauty. As a result, we have become freer to explore the depths of who we really are, to share this with each other and to support one another in our healing journey."
Karen Kral, M.A., LPCC and Mark Lersch, M.A., LPCC
"The inner bonding work has completely changed my life and my relationship for the better. My husband and I went from a relationship that was surely headed for divorce (or misery) to the most fulfilling and connected relationship I have ever experienced! (More than I ever even imagined was possible.) We are now able to communicate freely and openly about all areas of our life, money, emotions, sex. We both feel free to relate to each other openly without fear of the other's reaction."
The relationship toolbox was my first introduction to Inner Bonding. The toolbox itself was very well organized, allowing me enough time to go through each week's articles which I also shared with my husband. Each article was written in language that was easy to understand and in such a way that it helped me to realize my responsibility in the relationship system. My husband also found them to be very enlightening in terms of his end of the relationship system. I have recommended the relationship toolbox to many people and my husband and I were both so pleased that we joined the Inner Bonding community. Thanks for creating this wonderful system!
Inner Bonding has provided us with the tools to take responsibility for our own feelings, thoughts and behaviors instead of blaming each other for causing our feelings.
We both have learned how to have a deeper relationship with God which provides us with the strength to take loving care of ourselves. This allows us to be filled with love to share with one another instead of trying to get love from one another. We no longer depend on the other person to make us happy, as we now realize we create our own happiness.
Our communication has greatly improved because we have learned to choose the intent to learn when in conflict and not engage in unproductive conversation. For example, we have reduced blaming, explaining, and trying to get the other person to see our point of view. Inner Bonding has helped us to be more present with ourselves, which in turn, allows us to be more present in the relationship.
Inner Bonding has helped us to find a healthy balance between caring for ourselves and caring for each other. We are more aware of when we are trying to control in the relationship and stop and realize our only control is over ourselves. We have learned the importance of choosing to notice the positives in each other and our relationship.
Inner Bonding has helped us to seek to understand each other, agree to disagree, and discuss hot topics when both of us are open. This preserves our energy and reduces unnecessary frustration in our relationship.
We are so grateful that we have the Inner Bonding process in our lives. Inner Bonding has helped us to have more love, freedom and joy in all of our relationships.
Kelly and Jeff James
"I have been dieting my whole entire life, fighting the ups and downs of using food to deal with loneliness, stress, and grief. If I felt empty, I used it to fill up the empty spaces. If I felt stress, I used food to calm down. If I felt grief, I used food for comfort. Heck, I used food to celebrate as well. I then found it necessary to judge myself as a weak human being because I had fallen off the “diet” wagon again. I had one particularly potent discussion with Margaret when I said “but I NEED sugar” and Margaret asked me to replace the word sugar with love. “but I NEED love”, I said, and “ah” I got it in that instant, I never needed the sugar, I had made sugar my form of attainable love. I thought before that I could only get love from another person. I had not yet learned the powerful Inner Bonding process that taught me how to bring love to my Inner Child and give myself what I really needed, love. So each time I found myself reaching for my favorite peanut m & m’s, or some other sweet of choice, I would stop and ask myself what I needed, and most assuredly it was love. I found how the real thing, love, satisfies in ways that no other addictive substance could satisfy. Love is what heals, helps ground me, gives me a sense of well-being. As I practiced Inner Bonding, my cravings disappeared. I have love in abundance and love to share. I have lost 20 pounds without a single day of dieting, and am sure the rest will follow, and I will never have to diet again. I can just ask my body what it needs, and it has all the answers….Spirit provides all the love I’ve ever wanted or needed and food is no longer used as its substitute."
Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience
The next 'Love Yourself' Course wil start on February 12th.
"Thank you so much for all you do, and for this course. I can't believe the difference
a month has made. I don't want this course to end." --Beth Hyland
"I found this course life changing! During the course,
my 11 year old son with high functioning autism said to me 'Mom, you're changing.
I don't know how but it's good.' --Lynn
Are you ready to free yourself of fear, anxiety and depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationship problems?
Are you ready to learn to connect with yourself and your personal source of spiritual guidance, so that you can connect with a partner?
Whether you are new to Inner Bonding or a seasoned practitioner of the Inner Bonding process, you will be amazed at how much you learn and heal in my 30-Day Intensive Inner Bonding program.
Thanks so much - my life has improved immeasurably since starting the course….
my physical appearance, health and home look much better, and I have gone through
the most painful time in my life in agraceful and compassionate way,
largely due to this practice. --Liz M.
In this course - which will take only about 15-20 minutes a day - you're going to learn how to love yourself, rather than continue to reject and abandon yourself, which is the underlying cause of most anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationship problems.
People learn in different ways. Some people learn by seeing, some by hearing, and some by reading, and some in all of these ways. You will have an opportunity to learn in all of these ways, because here is what you will be receiving in this course:
- Each day, for 30 days, you will be receiving an email from me that contains an article and an action step for you to take that day. Each simple action step, which you will be able to easily integrate into your day, will gradually lead you through the Inner Bonding process.
- A number of times each week you will receive a 5-10 minute video or a 3-5 minute visualization that will support you in your healing process. I've created these videos and visualizations just for this course.
- There will be a special forum that I've created just for this group. In this forum of compassionate and caring people, you will be able to share your experience and receive help from each other and from me.
- In the forum you can ask your questions, and once a week we will have a live coaching call, where I will be answering your questions and helping you with your healing process.
- If you can't make the call at that time, don't worry! I will be answering your questions that you asked in the forum and you will be receiving a recording of the coaching call.
Thank you for your consistent presence and the trust that you engendered…
and for the whole 30 day experience. It turned out to be even more than
Space is limited, so don't delay in giving yourself one of the best gifts you can give to yourself.
In addition, you will receive $200 off the current price of SelfQuest, as a way of following up on your learning and healing! This means that you can purchase SelfQuest for $397 rather than the regular $597 - a 33% discount!
"LOVED IT. Incredibly effective. Of all the therapeutic and spiritual practices I have explored,
Inner Bonding is the most effective because it provided me a simple and direct,
but also profoundly effective process for accessing love, respect
and trust for myself." --Amber DuPuy
Come walk with me through this powerful self-healing course. I look forward to getting to know you!
The program cost is $199. You can register through PayPal - either with your PayPal account or with a credit card, or you can call our lovely assistant, Valerie, at 888-646-6372.