Daily Inspiration

If someone's behavior makes your stomach tight, attend. Your stomach may be reacting to an energy that is unloving. It is only when you attend to your inner feelings that you can take loving action in your own behalf.

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"The February 2003 Workshop in LA was an awesome experience; very enlightening and instructional on how to become a loving adult to yourself first, then all others in your life. Thank you."
Deborah Millstine

'This workshop is extremely profound!  Be a Loving Adult -- what does it mean?  You will discover how to connect with your deeper self, and find the truth within yourself.'  Weekend Workshop - Anaheim Hills, CA 3.14


Lise Winicki

"I arrived, terrified at the prospect of revealing myself in the work process. As the walls came tumbling down with the tears, I was finally able to open to myself and my group. It was such a tremendous release and relief to know that my primary focus is to become a loving person, and to do that I need to (get to) take care of myself. Margaret creates a wonderfully loving safe environment for beautiful healing things to happen." Rowe, MA Workshop, April, 2000
Alice Gianninoto

[This testimonial is from a 15 year old boy] "I believe that the workshop provided necessary important information. I enjoyed it and will recommend as many friends as I can to come to one" Toronto Workshop, April, 2000
David Kimball

Comments from Margaret's presentation at the 1997 Psychology of Health, Immunity and Disease Conference sponsored by the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine at Hilton Head, NC.: "Thank you Dr. Paul, what a gift. Absolutely powerful. What an amazing integration of all I ever knew/learned. It put it all together." "This was a meaty, wonderful session. She covered content and gave us an experience of it. Loved it!" "She was great! Have her back! Very moving, helpful process." "This workshop was exactly what I needed. Puts many things together. Have her back for a longer time." "I have used your healing aloneness material and they have changed my life. I also use there materials for my ACOA groups and they make such a difference. Thank you." "This is just the process I needed. I am so grateful and hope-filled - relieved. Thank you so much." "This was very informative and helpful. An excellent teacher. I will use this in my own practice." "Dear Margaret, thanks for the 6 step process and the new light of providing a loving guide. I appreciate the meditation for creating/contacting that guide."


'Prior to this weekend workshop, I had read a few books, worked through the website, listened to Podcasts.  Having the live sessions, WITH OTHERS LEARNING AND ASKING QUESTIONS, made it all solidify.  Very happy with my decision to invest in this weekend.' Kripalu Workshop, 9.12
 


Elizabeth Thompson

The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding




Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.





Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings

Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.

Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn

Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:

  • to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
  • to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.

When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.

Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self

Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.

Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance

Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.

Step Five: Take Loving Action

Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.

Step Six: Evaluate Your Action

Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.

These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.