Daily InspirationToday, really notice your thoughts. Notice which thoughts create fear, anxiety, anger or depression. Notice which thoughts create peace, joy, lightness of being. Notice how these feelings result directly from your thoughts. Thoughts that create pain are not in your highest good. Thoughts that create peace are thoughts that are in harmony with your being. With practice, you can learn to be more in charge of your thoughts. By Dr. Margaret Paul
"A profound and moving experience. A truly healing process. A worthwhile journey toward evolving my soul." Los Angeles Weekend Workshop, 7/04
"This workshop helped me realize how my wounded self takes over and hinders me in life. The workshop was nurturing and intimate. The way I hope to be as a loving adult." LA Workshop, 7/05
'Wonderful, important. Tools and focus/attention on how to love Inner Child better than I've ever know how to do. Learned that there is so much more she needs to be given.' Kripalu Workshop, 9.10
"I came in so heavy with emotional pain and am leaving feeling so light. I've had a major shift in attitude regarding myself and more importantly regarding God. I now feel compassionate toward myself and open to receive 'Guidance.' Thank you for honoring your Guidance so that this material could be channeled to us who so desperately need it." Rowe Weekend Workshop, 5/06
"This week-end has enlightened my soul. Inner Bonding is life changing. Margaret is amazing - she is the look of Freedom." L.A. Workshop, 12/06
"The most important experience I want to share is learning all the ways I have used in the past to get love and avoid pain, the many ways I used to control and the false beliefs that I operated under, and particularly learning to have compassion for myself." LA Workshop 9-10/01
The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding
Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.
Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings
Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into
your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to
be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather
than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.
Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn
Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:
- to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
- to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self
Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.
Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance
Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Step Five: Take Loving Action
Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.
Step Six: Evaluate Your Action
Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.
These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.