Daily Inspiration

True wisdom does not lie in gifted speech, but in the ability to feel what you hear and hear what you feel.

By Dr. Erika Chopich

"Having completed an Inner Bonding workshop it was very rewarding and made me feel like a different person.  Because of Inner Bonding I have a better understanding of my inner child, my loving adult and intent to open to love.  I will continue Inner Bonding to go deeper into my Guidance for directions." Kripalu Workshop, Lenox, MA, 2009
Sophie Bartkowicz

" Very loving, respectful - very informative, both verbal and printed - the experiential parts were great!" Toronto Workshop - Toronto, Canada - 4/2001
Phil Ciglin

COMMENTS BY PARTICIPANTS AT INTERFACE IN BOSTON: "Outstandingly valuable tools for changing one's life in permanent ways. Margaret Paul is a terrific role model." "This program was excellent. Very helpful and presented in a way that made it safe to handle." "Margaret Paul's offering is fantastic, grounded, practical. After years of therapy, [this was] the best thing that happened to me."
Interface

"I'm taking home new critical pieces of my life pie. I was validated for what I've already healed and was given tools that are invaluable for continuing the ride! I leave energized yet peaceful. [Margaret is a] 10+ - totally passionate about life and her work which is a thrill to witness and to experience - it's catchy! Margaret is at the top of my list for skilled facilitation." Rowe, MA Workshop, April, 2000
Linda Sacha

"Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? is a treasure chest full of gifts which provide the essential tools for achieving inner peace, joy and fulfillment. A glorious book!"
JOHN GRAY

'Wonderful, important.  Tools and focus/attention on how to love Inner Child better than I've ever know how to do.  Learned that there is so much more she needs to be given.' Kripalu Workshop, 9.10
Sherry Golden

The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding




Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.



Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings

Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.

Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn

Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:

  • to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
  • to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.

Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self

Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.

Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance

Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.

Step Five: Take Loving Action

Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.

Step Six: Evaluate Your Action

Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.

These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.