Daily InspirationA friend was suffering the kind of pain that can only be born of the heart. In a moment of inspiration he found the courage to share it with me. His heart healed, And mine was filled. God designed it to always be this way. By Dr. Erika Chopich
'Very, very enlightening! I was able to have insights about myself and my childhood that I have not had in 10 years of self-study. What a brilliant, beautiful process. I look forward to seeing the amazing, positive changes that will happen in my life as I continue to practice Inner Bonding and nurturing my Inner Child. Thank you!' Kripalu Workshop, 9.10
'Even if you have been a member on the Website, this Workshop will deepen your practice and take you to the next level. I was scared of opening up to strangers, but you created a safe environment for us. Thank you!'
"My second weekend workshop. Did one 6 or 7 years ago. So helpful to see my growth (still plenty to do). I've been practicing more in the last 6 months and although I'm feeling led to some scary changes, there's a much stronger sense of inner power than ever before - imagine if I practiced the process every day for the rest of my life!" LA Workshop 9/10/01
'After a long 3 year divorce I finally have answers and most importantly a structure. I needed to know why I do and react the way I do. I feel I can finally move on with my life now, I also have insight into other people that will benefit me for the rest of my life. I almost did not make it here however life changing is what this workshop has been!' Weekend Workshop - Anaheim Hills, CA 3.14
"Everyone is always telling me to stop being so controlling. Margaret is the first one who has given me the tools to do it - a way to reconnect with my core - my inner child - and learn how to take responsibility and feel the hurts that lie underneath it all. I feel incredibly empowered." Kripalu Workshop, 9/08
Connie Florio Welton
'I was skeptical at first, but had an incredible week-end. I'm so excited to get home and practice what I've learned in life and in my new relationship.' Kripalu Workshop, 9.10
The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding
Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.
Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings
Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.
Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn
Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:
- to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
- to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.
Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self
Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.
Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance
Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Step Five: Take Loving Action
Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.
Step Six: Evaluate Your Action
Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.
These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.