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Daily Inspiration

Speak your truth to others in the moment, or as soon are you are aware of it. If you choose not to speak your truth, then let the issue go. Resenting the other when you choose not to speak your truth only leads to stress and distance with others.

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I would love to share my experience, particularly with people with alcohol addictions.  I am also doing 12 step work - this along with that will heal my wounded self.


Karin Small

'I have done Inner Child work before using John Bradshaw's materials, and seen a practitioner who does Inner Child work.  This workshop has given me the tools to process through the feelings that have lead to my withdrawing from life.  The principles taught are in agreement with the spiritual beliefs I already hold.  This adds to my spiritual growth as well as help with my emotional growth.' Los Angeles Workshop, 1/09
Steve Hall

'I came here with a very small understanding of Inner Bonding and had read a few articles on yours and Sheryl Paul's website. My love and relationship has been struggling for a year now and I was at my breaking point.  It was so enlightening to learn Inner Bonding and understand that my wounded self was doing all the talking and treating my partner badly.  All the time before it felt as if I was 'right' and it took this session for me to realize that I can only be right for me.  I look forward to exploring Inner Bonding and loving myself and my partner the way we both deserve.  This course has been excellent.' Weekend Workshop - Kripalu, Lenox, MA 9.14


Simona Shapiro

"The process is simple and natural, gentle yet strong. It recharged my essence with energy of joy and peace as it brought me back to inner balance. Margaret was very warm, considerate and professional."
Rinat Amir

"It was a wonderful healing process for me. I came with the intention to learn and heal and as a result - I got what I came for."
Rachel McDavid

"Wow! I got in touch with my inner child! It's me she's been angry, resentful, sad, joyful about - not the rest of the world. I have abandoned her, ignored her, paid no good attention to her - now I know where my efforts need to be directed - it's scary and enormously hopeful." Kripalu Workshop - Lenox, MA - 5/2001
Suzanne Gluck-Sosis

The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding




Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.





Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings

Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.

Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn

Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:

  • to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
  • to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.

When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.

Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self

Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.

Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance

Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.

Step Five: Take Loving Action

Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.

Step Six: Evaluate Your Action

Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.

These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.