Daily InspirationNotice your anger, frustration or irritation. These feelings indicate that you are not taking care of yourself in some way. Your inner child is angry at you for the lack of care, and instead of attending, you may be projecting it outside yourself to others. Open to learning with your anger and discover what loving actions you need to take in your own behalf. By Dr. Margaret Paul
"This workshop was extremely valuable to me. Margaret created a very safe environment to open and heal. I have a new appreciation for my inner child and am committed to healing my relationship with her. Tapping into my spiritual guides excites me and I look forward to learning more about this wisdom as well as trusting the wisdom I receive." Toronto Workshop - Toronto, Canada - 4/2001
'I came here broken. My Wounded self was running my life and broke all aspects of it. I learned so much on who my Wounded self is. NOT ME. The relationship and conflict info. was Huge for me.' Weekend Workshop - Kripalu - Lenox, MA 9.14
"I loved it!
"It is indeed demanding to faithfully spend some time, daily, listening to the visualization, reading what Margaret shared with us and doing personal IB work. But it is so worthwhile! Up to now I had been reading numerous articles about IB, participated in Telephone Groups, followed an intensive, explained the 6 steps to many people, and so on. I had noticed a certain positive change in my life. The 30-Day course taught me that IB is more an experiential than intellectual process. It helped me practice the process each day and consequently I am experiencing the many benefits of it.
"I now listen more to what my body tells me and to my feelings. The content of the course has helped me discover many false beliefs, dating from my childhood, and grow towards becoming a more loving adult for my inner child.
"What a marvelous idea Margaret had to put together this 30-Day Course! I found it superb. And when the 30 days are over, one can continue to use it at one’s own rhythm, deepening one or the other lesson if need be.
"Thanks to Margaret and her 30-Day Course, I am now practicing IB, enjoying all the fruits of this 6 steps process. I have recommended it to some of my friends and will not hesitate to continue spreading this good news in this Warm Heart of Africa (Malawi)." 9/13
"Everyone is always telling me to stop being so controlling. Margaret is the first one who has given me the tools to do it - a way to reconnect with my core - my inner child - and learn how to take responsibility and feel the hurts that lie underneath it all. I feel incredibly empowered." Kripalu Workshop, 9/08
Connie Florio Welton
Learning about acting with intent. I think the frequent check-in with my inner child is so valuable. We used to play a lot together - less over the years, so it is time to re-engage. Sometime what I say is taken as an offense. I realize I have to check in with my inner child- am I saying this to be hip, cool? Or to be loving and sharing?
This is a very high quality workshop. I have learned more in one weekend about how to live a loving, joyous and wonderful life than I learned in my 52 years prior. The tools and process are practical, make so much sense and will be so valuable in my life.
The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding
Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.
Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings
Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.
Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn
Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:
- to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
- to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.
Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self
Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.
Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance
Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Step Five: Take Loving Action
Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.
Step Six: Evaluate Your Action
Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.
These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.