A Testimonial

I read "Healing Your Aloneness" because my daughter asked me to. She felt it would help me understand the type of therapy she was involved in and give us a common language that might improve the quality of the communication between us. I am so very glad I followed my daughter's lead. This book taught me the Inner Bonding process in such a beautiful way, with moving stories from the lives of some of the authors' clients. It helped me see that, in responding to my daughter's wounded Inner Child, I was in "Intent to Protect" my ego instead of "Intent to Learn" about my daughter's pain. I thought I was helping to heal the gap between us by the things I said to my daughter. But what I learned from the non-judgmental way the authors helped others understand how a "Loving Adult" relates to a wounded "Inner Child" showed me why she stayed distant. Now, when my daughter talks about her wounded Inner Child, I have the awareness and the tools to let her know I hear her heart. We are not home yet, but the gap is closing. My daughter now knows that she can trust that I love her, that I will "hang in there" with the healing process and that, if she lets me know what her Inner Child needs, I will try my very best to provide it. "Healing Your Aloneness" gave me another gift. It helped me get in touch with and listen to my own Inner Child. He is seven. His name is "Billy," He, too, has wounds that have not healed. He, too, is angry at me for not listening to him, for not being there. I am continuing to bond with him from my "Loving Adult." He is so bright, so wise, so needy, so capable of joy. I love that little boy and he too is beginning to trust that I do. I am grateful that the authors have put the Inner Bonding process in a book that is such a joy to read. Reading it has not only helped me have the loving relationship I so wanted with my daughter, it has helped me to love myself.

Bill Dallavo
Molalla, Oregon