Daily Inspiration

Today, notice which part of you is in charge - your programmed mind or your higher mind. When your programmed mind - your wounded self - is in charge, you will likely feel stressed. When your higher mind - your loving Adult connected with your Guidance - is in charge, you will likely feel peace and joy.


'This was a great experience for me.  Although I've been familiar with the concepts for a while and practicing on my own, I found greater clarification and understanding of the process.  I feel energized and optimistic about my journey moving forward.' Los Angeles Workshop, 1/09
Kim Taff

"I came into this weekend scared of having to expose myself. I feared expressing my feelings of shame and guilt and embarrassment. I most especially was afraid to cry in front of others. I felt like I'd rather die than to be so vulnerable amongst strangers. But, after having participated this weekend I feel some of that fear has diminished and I now know that it's okay to cry without embarrassment or shame. I feel safe." LA Workshop 9/10/01
Cheri Shankar

'I really appreciate learning how to love myself from someone who has walked the hard journey of learning to love & take responsibility for herself by opening to God's love & guidance.  It is clear from observing her that true love for others flows from allowing God's love into yourself to become your love of yourself.  Love it!'  Weekend Workshop - Anaheim Hills, CA 3.14

John Burt

"My second weekend workshop. Did one 6 or 7 years ago. So helpful to see my growth (still plenty to do). I've been practicing more in the last 6 months and although I'm feeling led to some scary changes, there's a much stronger sense of inner power than ever before - imagine if I practiced the process every day for the rest of my life!" LA Workshop 9/10/01
Ginger Saltzgaber

"This workshop was exactly what I needed.  I trusted my Inner Guidance, which led me here.  Through the workshop I learned that my loneliness is based in the truth that I wasn't heard or loved as a child.  My loving adult now is open to loving my inner child/wounded self.  Although I still desire to be in a loving partnership with a soul mate, I now know I don't need that soul mate to be loved - I truly know now that I am loved by myself and by God." Kripalu Workshop, Lenox, MA, 2009


"This course was revolutionary for me. After years of self help books, self help courses, therapy, searching, meditating, pilgrimage, you name it…..FINALLY I found Inner Bonding as a method to come home to me in a powerful and authentic loving way. It is so exciting and such a relief to have this map as a way to heal the toxic wound of self abandonment. Thank you Margaret and Erika for this precious work." 5.16



SelfQuest Educational Foundation, Inc.



Learn about SelfQuest, our sofware program based on Inner Bonding, that will be offered to prisons and schools.

Purpose and Mission

SelfQuest Educational Foundation, Inc, a 501(c)(3) non-profit foundation, has developed a software based self-discovery and healing process, designed for inmates and students to:

  • Develop self esteem and personal responsibility
  • Develop empathy, compassion and the ability to love oneself and others
  • Prevent and treat substance abuse
  • Prevent and treat domestic violence and other forms of violence
  • Reduce recidivism
  • Prevent high school dropout.

Our mission is to offer the SelfQuest program, which is contained in an interactive downloadable CD, to prisons, schools and correctional institutions and to provide trained facilitators to augment and support its use.

SelfQuest Overview

The technology presented in SelfQuest guides users through their personal history and behavior profile, helping them to become aware of their fears, limiting beliefs, and uncaring or destructive behavior. Then it takes them through the Six Steps of Inner Bonding to help them resolve both inner and relationship conflict. They learn how to access and take responsibility for their feelings, how to learn from their anxiety and difficulties, and how to access the spiritual love, truth and power that enables them to heal their self-limiting beliefs and take loving action for themselves and with others.

SelfQuest has tremendous potential for lasting impact on the community, as demonstrated by the following testimonial:

"Inner Bonding has been extremely powerful in helping me as an instructor teach very painful concepts to men who have very violent histories. It is truly remarkable how men respond and move toward taking personal responsibility for how they feel utilizing the Inner Bonding process. These men have extreme issues of control, and Inner Bonding gets to the heart of it in a very direct and healing way. Inner Bonding is perfect for correctional institutions and quite frankly I have been in the game for a long time and implemented many programs. We have been waiting for someone to put it together in such a way that inmates respond and apply the knowledge."

James Beard, Domestic Violence Substance Abuse Instructor, Sheriff's Department, Correctional Education Division, Los Angeles, CA

Each inmate and student who participates in the program will have his or her own program. The program can be utilized in any size group, depending upon computer availability. Most prisons and schools have computers available. Minimal computer skills are required. A trained facilitator will be introducing the program to each group, and working with individuals and groups as they move through the program. In addition, the trained facilitator will conduct a brief training, with all inmates and students utilizing the program, on how to support each other while learning the SelfQuest tools.

Research indicates that most violent criminals, rather than having low self-esteem, suffer from toxic self-esteem. They tend to be pathologically narcissistic, selfish, and self-centered. They think they are special, entitled, better than others, which they believe gives them the right to do what they want, even if it harms others. When anything is wrong in their lives, they blame others - their parents, society, their teachers, the justice system, and so on. They do not take responsibility for themselves. This erosion of personal responsibility in our society has had tragic consequences, and prison does little to change this. The SelfQuest program addresses these issues as well as issues of anger management.

Non-violent offenders, such as many addicts, have few coping mechanisms for feelings of fear, anxiety, and inadequacy. They often turn to substances because they know of no other way of filling their emptiness and managing their pain. 12 Step programs are supportive, but don't provide the actual tools for managing difficult and painful feelings. The SelfQuest program provides these tools.

The SelfQuest CD is designed to move individuals out of seeing themselves as victims of others and into personal responsibility for their feelings and behavior. It is designed to move individuals out of narcissistic behavior and into compassionate caring about themselves and others.

Donate Now!

We invite you to become part of the SelfQuest project. Please consider making a tax-deductible donation to SelfQuest Educational Foundation, Inc.

__$25 __$35 __$50 __$75

__$100 - $499 - Inner and Outer Bonder

__$500 - $999 - Angel in Training

__$1000 - $4,999 - Angel Graduate

__$5000+ - Saint

And in Spirit we are all the same!

To make a donation through PayPal, click the "Donate" button:

To pay by check: Make payable to "SelfQuest Educational Foundation."

Send to:

SelfQuest Educational Foundation
PMB #42, 2531 Sawtelle Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90064

To pay by Visa or MasterCard: Call Valerie at 888-646-6372

Thank you for helping us make this a more peaceful world!


Margaret Paul, Erika Chopich, Valerie Lippincott



Letter from Prison 

If these people can be helped so much by the books on Inner Bonding, imagine how much they will be helped by SelfQuest!

Dear Margaret Paul,

I am writing this missive in an attempt to thank you for your donations of all the reading materials that you have sent to the Sex Offending program here at Big Muddy River Correctional Center. Your gift is very appreciated by all the group members.

We started reading the book, "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God", a few weeks ago. It has helped many members make connection in their own lives and past, from being disconnected from their spirituality. Every group member had something to share concerning what we have read, Chapters 1 and 2.

After the horrible things that we have done to others, it give us courage to try harder to be able to reintegrate ourselves back into society and become a part of the solution, instead of being part of the problem. One of the benefits that can emerge from my suffering is a deepening sense of compassion and it has. Today I understand that maybe I went through all the things I did, so that I could more empathetic to those in need of nurturing, love, compassion, understanding, and patience. Some things that I never received as a child. I have reconnected with God, who I was angry at for so long, because I thought He didn't think I was lovable enough to stop all the abuse I suffered as a child. I grew and became a very self-centered person who was angry at life, myself and everyone else. I have been incarcerated five times in my life, for a variety of crimes. Every time I got out I was more hateful than when I went in. I have been incarcerated for 12 and a half years now and have about 18 months to go. I have more peace and serenity in my heart than I ever had in the past. I'm in prison and I feel more alive now than I ever have and I carry peace in my heart. Doing Inner Child Work has been a substantial part of that recovery. I will always be working that mind set for the rest of my life.

I pray for you and all those who work for you and the cause that you are facilitating. I have even been doing Inner Child Work with my own children on different levels. They are trying to recover from their own childhood losses.

I could never repay for all the insightful things that have helped me along my own journey in this spiritual world. I have been touched very profoundly, by your books, your honesty, genuineness, and love. Again, I wanted to say, "THANK YOU" for your helping hand in those words that you have written. It's impossible to know just how many lives will be changed, because of the people who read your books and how they will treat other's different.


E. L. C. Jr.


Letter From a Priest 

Dear Margaret
I am B. W., a Roman Catholic priest, living and working in the most southern tip of Africa and South Africa. We have quite an intensive non-denominational youth and prison ministry underway in our diocese with various groups of people doing different but exciting stuff. I have been a subscriber to your Inner Bonding website for a good while, and i cannot tell you how much I have made use of the material I receive from you in our ministry. I have been following your development of the SelfQuest programme with intense interest. The more I think about and look it over, the more I am convinced how appropriate it would be for our prison and youth work in schools and communities. The only challenge is that we would have to secure your permission/authorisation to translate it into the vernacular or local languages of Afrikaans and Xhosa, two of the local languages spoken here in South Africa. May we stay in touch and see how this could become a possibility.
Fr. B.W.
South Africa