Daily Inspiration

Today, be honest with yourself - what is more important to you than being a loving human being with yourself and others? Is it to get love, safety, attention, pleasure, security, approval? Is it to avoid pain, failure, disapproval, engulfment, conflict? Today, notice your intent - to get something or avoid something, or to be open to learning about loving yourself and others.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

"I have to tell you that my husband and I are not living together and have filed for a legal separation BUT we started doing the relationship course when I received the 12 weeks of the toolbox. We've done the first 3 weeks already and both of us are getting a lot out of it. After several years and more than $10,000 of what I now call "thera-chat", we have finally found something helpful! So thank you for making this material available!"


E.D.

"Inner bonding has helped us to love and care for ourselves, so that we share our lives and love from a full and connected place without codependent expectations. We focus on our own highest good and support this in each other. This has allowed us to feel truly free, empowered, deeply loving and supported in our journey together."


Sylvia and Sean

"The inner bonding work has completely changed my life and my relationship for the better. My husband and I went from a relationship that was surely headed for divorce (or misery) to the most fulfilling and connected relationship I have ever experienced! (More than I ever even imagined was possible.) We are now able to communicate freely and openly about all areas of our life, money, emotions, sex. We both feel free to relate to each other openly without fear of the other's reaction."


Danielle Koprowski

"By learning to take personal responsibility for our own “stuff,” we are able to enjoy the true essence of one another. Our love continues to retain the passion, intimacy, and playfulness that we shared when we first met."


Jeff and Elaine

"By teaching us how to take full responsibility for ourselves in relationship, Inner Bonding helped us move from codependency toward real intimacy. Inner Bonding taught us how to recognize and then own and transform the things we have projected onto each other, whether it be our darkness or our beauty. As a result, we have become freer to explore the depths of who we really are, to share this with each other and to support one another in our healing journey."


Karen Kral, M.A., LPCC and Mark Lersch, M.A., LPCC

"When I first began inner bonding I weighed 244 pounds. This was thirty or forty pounds too much for me, as I am six feet tall. As I read the articles and talked to two Inner Bonding® facilitators, I began to realize that my problem was more complicated than overeating. My facilitator asked me "what was I doing just before I started eating"? Then she asked "what were you feeling, at that moment?" With some difficulty I realized that whenever I was feeling uncomfortable or fearful, I would stick something in my mouth. I now weigh 220 pounds….I also have different self soothing strategies than I used to have."


Charlie Peck

Step Six of Inner Bonding

 

 

Evaluate Your Action

  • Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed.
  • If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.
  • In Step 6, you are looking for the deep inner fullness and sense of peace that comes from truth and loving action, not the temporary satiation that comes from addictions.

For a Six Step Guide, click on My Inner Bonding Process, which is under "Members: My Home" on the members menu.