Daily Inspiration

Seek not to give authority to others to tell you who you are or what is right or wrong for you. When you open to your spiritual Guidance, you become the world's authority on you! Only your own Guidance knows who you are and what is in your highest good. Today, seek to know yourself and support your highest good through being open to learning with your higher self.

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"Wow, amazing how one weekend can be so impacting! I was called to come, the words aloneness and finding your passion/purpose was the main trigger! On Friday evening I found myself reluctant, thinking I did enough of that 'stuff'. I didn't think it would benefit me! But my intent was to stay until the cake was fully baked, so my interest was staying open and to learn. How wonderful! The process helped me to work out a big junk of frustration, hurt and anxiety. I really got an understanding where my wounded child caused all this and I feel a big amount of freedom and motivation to use the six steps for all other challenges. This process really can help me, will help me to heal my body and soul and to take care of myself in a loving, gentle way! Thank you very much!" Rowe, MA Workshop, April, 2000
Maria Becke

'This workshop is extremely profound!  Be a Loving Adult -- what does it mean?  You will discover how to connect with your deeper self, and find the truth within yourself.'  Weekend Workshop - Anaheim Hills, CA 3.14


Lise Winicki

"This week-end has enlightened my soul. Inner Bonding is life changing. Margaret is amazing - she is the look of Freedom." L.A. Workshop, 12/06
Kim Amadril

'I have been practicing Inner Bonding for about 1.5 years and this is the first workshop that I have attended.  I am very grateful that I did finally attend.  Hearing Margaret explain the principles, and seeing the process in action, helped me to get an even clearer understanding.  Also, as a usually very reserved person, I was very pleasantly surprised to find how safe I felt, and how much I was able to open up and connect with myself and others.' LA Workshop, 3.7.10
Sharon Kidwell

'Great to have reinforcement of Inner Bonding as the primary focus.  Enjoyed seeing the counseling demos.  Great to hear Margaret's personal experience also.  Thanks.' Rowe, MA Workshop, 4/08
Herb Pearce

"This workshop helped me realize how my wounded self takes over and hinders me in life. The workshop was nurturing and intimate. The way I hope to be as a loving adult." LA Workshop, 7/05
Michelle Lipton

The 6 Steps

 

The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding

Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame and self-abandonment of the ego/wounded self, and creates a profound connection with your personal source of spiritual guidance.

The energy that was drained by disconnection and fear now returns to you, allowing you to live life more fully, experience a fulfilling relationship with yourself and others, and learn to manage the challenges of life in a healthy and sustainable manner.

 

A brief overview of the Six Steps:

 

Step 1: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings

In Step 1, you move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings and emotions. You make the choice to be mindful of all your feelings, including your painful feelings, rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. You make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings, which means that you want responsibility for learning how you are causing your own anxiety, depression, anger, guilt and shame with your own thoughts and actions, and that you want responsibility for learning how to nurture the painful feelings of life - the loneliness, heartbreak and grief that are so challenging.

This begins the process of opening you up to receive the positive energy that enlivens and sustains you.

 

Step 2: Move into the Intent to Learn

In Step 2, you focus in your heart and invite the compassionate presence of your higher self into your heart.

Now you're ready to focus on "intent" - your deepest desire, your primary motivation. There are only two possible intents you can have in any given moment:

  • The intent to protect yourself from pain 
  • The intent to learn about loving yourself

When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid, you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self.

This commitment to your intention to learn fully opens you up and allows you to connect with your feelings and your higher self. 

 

Step 3: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self

With kindness, gentleness and compassion toward yourself, you discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain, and you learn how to release anger and pain in appropriate ways. You uncover false beliefs that were created in the past and have led to the self-abandonment that is causing your current pain and shame. You explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core painful feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief. You explore your core Self - your essence, your inner child, which is your feeling self - and discover what brings you joy.

Only when the unconscious false beliefs that have limited you for so long are understood and identified, can they be replaced by new and healthier truths that will nurture and heal you.

In Step 3, you ask yourself questions, such as, "What am I trying to control?" "What am I avoiding feeling with my protective, controlling behavior?"

 

Step 4: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance

In Step 4, you ask your spiritual guidance (whatever that is for you): "What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs I may have uncovered in Step 3?" And, "What is the loving behavior toward my Inner Child in this situation? What is in my highest good? What is kind to myself?" You open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.

By staying open to learning, you experience that you are never alone. This is where fears fall away and you begin to receive all the love and wisdom you need to take loving action for yourself and with others.



Step 5: Take Loving Action

Step 5 is about telling yourself the truth and taking the loving action based on the information that came through from your guidance in Step 4.

You have opened to your pain, moved into learning, started a dialogue with your wounded self and core self, and tapped into your spiritual guidance. In step 5 you take the ‘loving action' that, over time, heals the shame, anxiety and depression that have been the result of your self-abandonment.

 

Step 6: Evaluate Your Action

Once you take the loving action, you check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, you go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.

Turning this daily practice into a way of life is what will protect you from going back into the behaviors and patterns from the past. Much like attending to - say - a child's feelings, you learn to keep a loving relationship with yourself throughout your life, no matter the challenges that come at you. This loving relationship with yourself and your guidance fills you and empowers you to handle life's challenges with strength and equanimity.