Daily Inspiration

The joy, fun, love, connections and freedom that come from having the courage to open to the core pain of life is what give life aliveness and vitality. Learn to lovingly manage the core pain of life - the loneliness, heartbreak, grief and helplessness over others and outcomes - and you will experience the love and joy of life.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

'I have tried many healing methods and spiritual paths, and nothing has ever given me so much personal empowerment to heal myself and be responsible for myself.  The process is inspired yet concrete and totally applicable in everyday life.' LA Workshop, 3.7.10

Maggie Hollinbeck

'I really appreciate learning how to love myself from someone who has walked the hard journey of learning to love & take responsibility for herself by opening to God's love & guidance.  It is clear from observing her that true love for others flows from allowing God's love into yourself to become your love of yourself.  Love it!'  Weekend Workshop - Anaheim Hills, CA 3.14

John Burt

"Twenty years of marriage, I never understood why my wife called me 'controlling'.  I got it!  The things I learned about my anger and how to own it, and lovingly learn from it are terrific." Rowe, MA Workshop, 4/08

Ed Vigneau

"I was delightfully surprised to learn how all the different practices I do - Zen, 12-Step programs, reading other authors, and bodywork - are harmonious. I also heard the description of a past issue of someone else that resonated with my own experience. The anger process is something I've been looking for, for years. Finally something made sense." Toronto Workshop - Toronto, Canada - 4/2001
Anne Marie Jackson

"I entered in a lot of inner pain, and today I feel very strong & positive towards personal self-care, growth & becoming a self reliant, loving me." Kripalu Workshop, Lenox, MA, 10/09
Linda Kirshenbaum

'Learning about Inner Bonding has been like learning the secret to life.  I have been struggling in my life for so long - spinning in circles.  Inner Bonding has a clear, logical method to healing and becoming all you can be.  I am blown away by what I have learned and I am grateful.' Kripalu Workshop, 9.10
Clare Fogle


  Get to know Dr. Erika Chopich, one of the co-creators of the Inner Bonding process.

 Erika Chopich, Ph.D.


Dr. Chopich holds a Ph.D. in psychology, is a best-selling author, and an ordained Chaplain. She has worked extensively with the homeless population  around the country. Erika has a medical background and before practicing as a psychotherapist, she was an administrator for the Los Angeles Free Clinic. In addition to working with individuals, groups, and business mediation, Erika is an accomplished speaker and seminar leader. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She is co-author of 'Healing Your Aloneness' and the 'Healing Your Aloneness Workbook', which have been translated into seven languages and are bestsellers in Germany.

Erika currently resides in Berthoud, Colorado. She is an accomplished pilot and an experienced chef. She continually offers her insight, creativity, quick-wit, humor and playfulness to the ever-evolving process of Inner Bonding. In addition, her unique ability to see and speak with Teachers in the spiritual realm supports the Inner Bonding process with a constant source of new information.

Erika writes and publishes her blog from a deep appreciation of nature and of life. She has the ability to observe, apply and to teach the Inner Bonding process in every, day-to-day, situation.  Her observations and her humor have gathered a large following.

Erika is passionate about her horses and spends much of her free time training and riding them. She also enjoys photography and paints in pastels. Her two dogs, Merlin and Dobby are her constant companions.

Erika with horses

Get to know Dr. Margaret Paul, one of the co-creators of the Inner Bonding process.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


Dr. Paul is the author/co-author of several best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids?, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Dr. Paul's books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into eleven languages.

Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars since 1967.

Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples throughout the world -- mostly on the phone. She is able to access spiritual Guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Her current passion is working on and developing content for this Website, as well as distributing SelfQuest®, the software program that teaches Inner Bonding® and is donated to prisons and schools, as well as sold to the general public.

Margaret is passionate about helping people rapidly heal the root cause of their pain and learn the path to joy and loving relationships.

In her spare time, Margaret loves to paint, make pottery, take photos, watch birds, read, ride horses, and spend time with her grandchildren.

Everest and Asher Candice