Getting Love vs. Being Loving
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Many of us grew up believing that getting love from others is what makes up happy, and creates a sense of worth and safety. You might be spending a lot of energy trying to get love, not realizing that everything you do to get love pushes love away.
The desire to control and not be controlled is so great in many people that it often overrides caring about self and others. When you feel pulled at by someone to do what they want, do you go into automatic compliance or resistance? Next time you feel the pull, stop and ask yourself, "What is in my highest good, to do what this person wants or not?" This way you are making your own choices rather than being controlled by the other person or by your resistance.
By Dr. Margaret Paul