Getting Love vs. Being Loving

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Many of us grew up believing that getting love from others is what makes up happy, and creates a sense of worth and safety. You might be spending a lot of energy trying to get love, not realizing that everything you do to get love pushes love away.

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How often do you argue, defend, explain, threaten, attack, blame or shut down, rather than feel the authentic heartache and loneliness of another's unloving behavior? Today, practice attending to these core painful feelings with deep compassion for yourself, rather than avoid these feelings with controlling behavior.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

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How often do you argue, defend, explain, threaten, attack, blame or shut down, rather than feel the authentic heartache and loneliness of another's unloving behavior? Today, practice attending to these core painful feelings with deep compassion for yourself, rather than avoid these feelings with controlling behavior.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

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