Getting Love vs. Being Loving
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Many of us grew up believing that getting love from others is what makes up happy, and creates a sense of worth and safety. You might be spending a lot of energy trying to get love, not realizing that everything you do to get love pushes love away.
Anxiety and control are intricately linked. When our intent is to control that which we cannot control - others and outcomes - we will always feel anxious. Our anxiety is telling us that we are off base - that we need to get present in the moment and take loving action for ourselves, rather than continue to try to control.
By Dr. Margaret Paul