Getting Love vs. Being Loving

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Many of us grew up believing that getting love from others is what makes up happy, and creates a sense of worth and safety. You might be spending a lot of energy trying to get love, not realizing that everything you do to get love pushes love away.

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Many people are afraid to ask for the help they need, because they are afraid of being rejected and feeling uncared for. Yet often in asking for help, they ask with a pulling needy voice, hoping the other will respond with caring. The other may feel manipulated and resistant to the needy pulling energy, doing the very thing the first person fears. We often bring about just what we fear with our protective, controlling behavior.

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Many people are afraid to ask for the help they need, because they are afraid of being rejected and feeling uncared for. Yet often in asking for help, they ask with a pulling needy voice, hoping the other will respond with caring. The other may feel manipulated and resistant to the needy pulling energy, doing the very thing the first person fears. We often bring about just what we fear with our protective, controlling behavior.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

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