The desire to control and not be controlled is so great in many people that it often overrides caring about self and others. When you feel pulled at by someone to do what they want, do you go into automatic compliance or resistance? Next time you feel the pull, stop and ask yourself, "What is in my highest good, to do what this person wants or not?" This way you are making your own choices rather than being controlled by the other person or by your resistance.
By Dr. Margaret Paul
Help with recovery from addictions - substance abuse, including alcohol abuse, drug addiction, food addiction, as well as healing from sexual addiction and addiction to love, power and control.
Addictive behavior comes from the intent to avoid pain. When we have not learned to love ourselves and have not learned healthy ways of managing pain, it is likely we will abandon ourselves by turning to one or more addictions in the hopes of avoiding feeling our pain. The problem is that the addictive behavior, such as eating a muffin or having a beer, works for only a short time, and then the addictive behavior itself becomes a cause of pain. Inner Bonding, which is a process for learning to love yourself rather than continue to abandon ourself, is a powerful process for addiction recovery.
12-Step addiction recovery groups are extremely helpful for anyone wanting to move into abstinence from both substance and process addictions: food, drugs, alcohol, sex, spending, gambling, anger and violence, caretaking, and so on.
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Sometimes it is helpful to have role-modeling for dialoguing with the wounded, addicted part of ourselves. Perhaps these dialogues can be of help to you to dialogue and take loving action rather indulge in your addictive behavior.
If you had a loving adult taking loving action for your inner child regarding addictive behavior, what would this look like for you? What would your inner child like from you? We invite you to write about your own experiences regarding what has worked for you.
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