Invite the compassionate Presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain.
Consciously move out of the intent to protect/control and into the intent to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
When you connect with Spirit and move into the intent to learn, you are in a loving Adult state, as opposed to the ego wounded self state you are in when you want to protect/control.
In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with a compassionate intent to learn.
When someone behaves in a way you don't like, you have only three choices: accept them while compassionately embracing your feelings, open to learning to reach understanding and acceptance, or accept that their behavior is not tolerable to you and leave. Changing them is not an option, for only they can change themselves, and only if they want to.
By Dr. Margaret Paul
