Rules for IBVillage Forum and for 'What's New"


  • When you post, be sure that you are open to learning. This is a place to support you in your Inner Bonding process.
  • Always focus on being compassionate and caring with members - not judgmental. We want this to be a safe place to share your struggles and triumphs without fear of overt or covert criticism. 
  • We honor each other's inner knowing. We share from our own life experience, never insisting others agree with our point of view. Kindness is our focus in all our dealings on IBVilage.
  • Look for the best in others.
  • We love when you share your own experiences that might be helpful to others.
  • Refrain from analyzing others.
  • Be careful of projecting your own feelings and experiences onto others
  • The Forum is a place for discussing your struggles and triumphs with Inner Bonding and receiving help and support for your IB process. 
  • If you are having a hard time, please make sure you are open to learning about the feedback you receive. 
  • If you want Dr. Margaret's help in the Forum, you need to state it in a short paragraph. Due to time constraints, she won't read long posts, and she doesn't read all posts. She oversees the safety of the Forum, but doesn't often participate. Questions are to be addressed primarily in the Advice section.

By participating in IBVillage you agree to the following shared agreements:

1. I agree to share within the framework of the practice, teachings and premises of Inner Bonding.

Inner Bonding adheres to the four basic premises:

Premise #1: We are responsible for our intention to control or our intention to learn to love moment-by-moment, regardless of external circumstances.

Premise #2: We have the ability to create circumstances and opportunities in our lives that reflect our clear intention to learn to love ourselves and others. We commit to this intention and to living in alignment with this intention.

Premise #3: When we learn to love ourselves, our external world will alter accordingly.

Premise #4: Part of learning to love ourselves is choosing to be gentle with ourselves when we realize that we are in the intention to control rather than in the intention to love. No matter how many times we notice this, we choose to attempt to let go of self-judgment as we move ourselves back into the intention to love ourselves and others.

By agreeing to this 1st Shared Agreement, I agree to give up sharing about my experience from a victimized perspective and to lean into taking full responsibility for my own experiences on this forum, in life and in love while I’m participating in Inner Bonding Village.

2. I agree to be 100% responsible for my own wellbeing while participating in the forum and in any other place in IBVillage.

4. I agree to honor the confidentiality of others in IBVillage.

5. I agree to take responsibility for being a guardian of the container of safety and cohesion in IBVillage.

6. I understand that posts that upset other members and create a lack of safety in the forum or in ‘What’s New’ will be taken down.

IBVillage is primarily a place where we share our exploration of the Inner Bonding process. We also share laughs, thought provoking articles, our own creative art and writing...but at the core it is a place where we seek input as we journey into a new way of being.

It is our responsibility to accept or reject the comments offered on IBVillage, not the responsibility of posters to say what we want to hear.

Likewise, it is the responsibility of posters to avoid insisting others agree with their viewpoint.

What IBVillage is not: it isn't a social media group where people share mundane daily activities, nor is it a place where you can expect responses to all your posts. It isn't a place to seek blind support. It is a place to learn and grow and receive support for your learning and growing.

Posting on the forum does not replace the need to practice the Inner Bonding process.


Daily Inspiration

If you shut down your feelings to avoid pain, how can you know what is right or wrong for you? Spirit often speaks to us through our feelings, so when you protect against pain rather than open to learning about what your feelings are telling you, you are shutting out the very guidance you need to feel safe.


'The knowledge and understanding that was shared was extremely valuable to me.  You clarified so many things & reinforced things I knew deep down but hadn't completely accepted as my truth.  I feel that I now have a practice that I can begin to guide me to a happier & more fulfilling life.'    Inner Bonding Weekend Workshop, Rowe, MA, 4/10
Brendan Penney

"This has been a deepening of my work with prayer and Alanon to try to develop healthy living patterns that allow me to finally accept myself and work with a higher power, to find a joyful purpose and a loving heart." Rowe, MA Workshop, April 2000
Cara Groman

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"Uncovering the layers of taking personal responsibility has really helped me to open to wanting to & being devoted to doing this.  Margaret, thank you for your love, help & unwavering support." Rowe, MA Workshop, 4/08

Meredith (Merry) Oislander

"Thanks for showing me that relationships are possibilities/vehicles to grow faster instead of problems. The course was so contentful....It is definitely a blessed material that could and must be my 'Bible' and which is worth waking up in time in the mornings and reading it again and again as attuning to the new day." 4.14


"My second weekend workshop. Did one 6 or 7 years ago. So helpful to see my growth (still plenty to do). I've been practicing more in the last 6 months and although I'm feeling led to some scary changes, there's a much stronger sense of inner power than ever before - imagine if I practiced the process every day for the rest of my life!" LA Workshop 9/10/01
Ginger Saltzgaber