The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding




Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.





Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings

Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.

Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn

Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:

  • to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
  • to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.

When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.

Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self

Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.

Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance

Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.

Step Five: Take Loving Action

Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.

Step Six: Evaluate Your Action

Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.

These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process. 




 
 



Daily Inspiration

Seek to be with like-minded people. Your own growth is supported by being with others who are striving to become whole and loving. Love yourself enough to not force yourself to be around closed hearted people, even if they are family or friends.

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'The Workshop is a comprehensive and personalized presentation of Inner Bonding - a thorough, practical approach and technique.  I gained confidence in doing the 6 steps and benefited from Margaret's energy and experience.  I recommend the Workshop because it is a perfect way to learn Inner Bonding and become more practiced, so as to take home the skills.  I loved being around people who want to learn and grow and are on a path of healing.  It is like salve for the soul!' Los Angeles Weekend Workshop, 3.11
Lisa Devine

"This has been a very healing day for me and the process has shown me my true potential. I realize that the only real choice is to move into Spirit because without it means working very hard at a solo effort." Los Angeles, May 2000
Tim Biancalana

"I'm 63 years old and was obsessed with dieting from the age of 19. When in my 30s I realized that diets don't work, I searched for better answers. I found some help through OA and a number of very good books and authors. For the last several years, I've worked with a therapist who is dedicated to the Overcoming Overeating approach, which I have found very helpful. I've become much more gentle to myself.

"Having thoroughly examined many approaches to my addictions, I believe that your words are beginning to put in place some critical missing pieces. The concepts of self-abandonment and self-love that you delineate really speak to me."


J.D.

“I absolutely loved this course. I feel I am given a road map to living with freedom and love. I find it so interesting how it does not create a momentary high of "being fixed" but rather having the right tool box. It feels so grounded to know that it's a long term process and I do feel the great benefits of it already.”


Charlotte

It was worthwhile, Margaret covers a lot and is committed to packing every moment with rich content.  The energy is relaxed, pleasant and authentic.  I personally feel very excited about it’s application to my life.  It has been an awakening even after years of studying Inner Bonding.  I am very grateful to be here and for Margaret’s commitment and generosity and who she is.  April 2019


Sherry

"This is a very high quality workshop.  I have learned more in one weekend about how to live a loving, joyous and wonderful life than I learned in my 52 years prior.  The tools and process are practical, make so much sense and will be so valuable in my life." Kripalu, 9.17


Donna Dietz