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How To Be A Loving Advocate For Your Inner Child

By Dr. Margaret Paul
September 27, 2016



What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now!



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What does loving self-care really mean?

Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means.

The wounded self might say, "I'm taking loving care of myself when:

  • I reward myself with chocolate cake after a really hard day."
  • I withdraw and feel justifiably angry when someone makes unreasonable demands on me."
  • I get really angry when someone is being disrespectful to me or not doing what they said they would do."
  • I tell someone my feelings when he or she has hurt or upset me."
  • I chill out and reduce my stress with a few glasses of wine."
  • I reward myself after a stressful week by buying new clothes or new toys, even when I can't afford them."
  • I like to stay up late to watch a favorite show, even if I'm really tired the next day."
  • I listen to others complain because I want to be a good person and not hurt their feelings."

The loving adult sees these situations completely differently. The loving adult might say, "I'm taking loving care of myself when:

  • I do Inner Bonding and give myself the love I really need rather than pacifying my inner child with chocolate cake. I care about my health, so I don't often indulge in eating things that do not contribute to my health and wellbeing." I speak up in my own behalf – in behalf of my inner child - when someone makes unreasonable demands on me, stating a clear limit regarding how I expect to be treated. I disengage from the conflict without anger if the person continues to treat me with disrespect."
  • I acknowledge, embrace and release my loneliness in the face of others' disrespectful or resistant behavior. I accept my helplessness over others' behavior rather than get angry in an attempt to control them. With the help of my higher power, I then decide how to be a loving advocate for my inner child if another continues to treat me badly."
  • I do Inner Bonding when I am hurt or upset by another's behavior, to discover what I am telling myself that is hurting or upsetting me. When I am open and clear, I may approach the other with an intent to learn about the good reasons for his or her behavior."
  • I do Inner Bonding when I am stressed, to discover what I am telling my inner child that is stressing me out. I may occasionally consume some substances, such as wine, for the pleasure of it or the social enjoyment of it, but not addictively to avoid responsibility for my feelings."
  • I occasionally buy new clothes or toys for the pleasure of it, but not as an addictive way out of stress. I do not buy things when it would put me into financial distress."
  • I get to sleep early enough to make sure that I'm not tired the next day, because my health and wellbeing are really important to me. If I have a favorite show that I don't want to miss, I record it and see it another time."
  • I speak my truth when others are complaining or dumping their negativity onto me, by saying something like, 'It really doesn't feel good to have you dump your negativity onto me. I'd be happy to be of help to you if you want help, but I'm not willing to be a dumping ground for your misery.' If the person does not respect this limit, then I end the conversation or stop spending much time with that person."

Loving self-care is never about controlling others or avoiding your own feelings. Being a loving advocate for your inner child is about taking the action - guided by Spirit - that brings about deep inner peace and joy. It is not a momentary addictive action, but an action that truly takes care of your physical, emotional, financial and spiritual wellbeing.

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