Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three?
Ask: What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself?
Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, feelings, dreams, in talking with another, or in reading a book. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Which is more important to you, safety or intimacy? Safety and intimacy are often mutually exclusive.
True intimacy has its up and downs, its closeness and its distance, its peace and its fear, its joy and its sadness. Since there is always the possibility of loss, there is no true safety in intimacy, yet it is the spice of life. Which is more important to you, safety or intimacy?
By Dr. Margaret Paul
