Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three?
Ask: What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself?
Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, feelings, dreams, in talking with another, or in reading a book. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Many people are afraid to ask for the help they need, because they are afraid of being rejected and feeling uncared for. Yet often in asking for help, they ask with a pulling needy voice, hoping the other will respond with caring. The other may feel manipulated and resistant to the needy pulling energy, doing the very thing the first person fears. We often bring about just what we fear with our protective, controlling behavior.
By Dr. Margaret Paul
