Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three?
Ask: What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself?
Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, feelings, dreams, in talking with another, or in reading a book. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Energy is everything. Energy always follows intent. When your intent is to learn about loving yourself and others, your energy will be light and easy. When your intent is to protect/avoid/control, your energy will be heavy and dark. When your intent is to learn about loving yourself - loving your own Inner Child - you will be able to discern another's intent to control or to learn. This is what creates inner safety.
By Dr. Margaret Paul