Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three?
Ask: What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself?
Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, feelings, dreams, in talking with another, or in reading a book. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Do you believe that if you punish someone you love with anger and withdrawal, they will change and be the way you want them to be? They may sometimes do what you want to avoid your anger or withdrawal, but they will not love you more - you cannot control their love. Today, remember why you love them.
By Dr. Margaret Paul