How to Move Out of Your Ego Wounded SelfBy Dr. Margaret Paul
November 18, 2019
If you sometimes get stuck in your wounded self and can't see how to get back into your loving adult, here are some ideas that may help you.
Sometimes, when we get stuck in our wounded self, it is hard to wind our way out of it. I've noticed what I do when I'm happy and my frequency is high, as opposed to when my frequency feels low.
It is helpful to me to keep a list of ways I've learned to move myself from closed to open.
Here are some of the ways I've found work for me…
The subtlety of these choices is that I need to be consciously doing these things because it is loving for me to do them, rather than as a form of control. It’s possible for your wounded self to choose these same behaviors as a way to avoid responsibility for your feelings and avoid learning from your pain. When that is the intent, then these choices will not raise your frequency, which means you will not move out of your wounded self. So please be honest with yourself!
I can raise my frequency by:
- Focusing on gratitude from my heart for what I have
- Thinking about what I want, not what I don't want - not as a form of control but because it feels good in my heart to do so
- Thinking only positive thoughts based on love rather than fear
- Staying present in the moment with my Guidance - letting go and letting God
- Not attaching my wellbeing to outcomes and letting go of trying to control outcomes
- Speaking up for my feelings with others in the moment that I feel them
- Making sure I'm not taking anything personally
- Tending with compassion to my heartbreak, loneliness, grief, and helplessness concerning others
- Keeping my body clear and free of anything that lowers my frequency
- Spending time in nature
- Dialoguing with my Guidance
- Being with my animals
- Listening to inspiring music
It's all about letting go of control, and choosing love, moment by moment…
…and doing all this for the sake of love itself rather than as a form of control. It's about making love my highest priority, each moment, rather than protecting against getting hurt.
- Do you tend to focus on what is not good, rather than what is good, and ruminate about it?
- Do you tend to go along being happy and positive until someone does something unloving, and then you don't take care of yourself and feel depressed?
- Do you tend to get off track when externals happen - like someone being angry at you - and go into freeze mode, getting stuck in fear; or ruminate about how the other person doesn't care about you?
- Do you tend to get off track when the people you love, such as parents or children, are having problems, such as financial, relationship, or health problems?
- Do you tend to get off track due to your own financial situation, or when health issues come up, or when something traumatic from the past gets triggered?
We all need to be vigilant regarding raising our frequency back up when we get triggered into our wounded self.
It's like our wounded self takes over as soon as something bad happens unless we get right back into thinking or doing something that raises our frequency - like something on the first list.
I find that if I take measures to raise my frequency right away, just as soon as I can feel it go low, it is much easier to go back to operating as my loving adult. If you let too much time pass, it's easy to sink further and further into your wounded self, making it much harder to come out of the rabbit hole.
Once I‘m back in my loving adult, then I can do an Inner Bonding process, to understand more about what triggered me into my wounded self.
Keeping my frequency high and staying in my loving adult is a moment-by-moment choice.
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It is not always what we say or do in a moment that defines us in that moment, but rather the energy with which we speak and act. Our energy in any given moment is open or closed, loving or unloving, accepting or judgmental, kind or unkind, soft or hard, flexible or unyielding, controlling or learning. Regardless of the words, the energy always betrays our intent.
By Dr. Margaret Paul