Beyond the Authority of the Critical VoiceBy Dr. Margaret Paul
November 07, 2022
Do you listen to your inner critic as if it is the voice of authority? Learn how to move beyond these false beliefs and into truth.
Each of us has an inner critic. There is no way to grow up in our society without having developed this inner critical voice - which comes from parents, teachers, peers, the media, and from our own conclusions.
The problem is that this inner critic sounds like a voice of authority, when in reality it doesn't know what it is talking about. It is a voice based on beliefs that have been handed down through generations but that have no basis in fact.
How often has this authoritative voice said to you:
"You can't do it. You are inadequate."
"You are stupid and ugly."
"If he (or she) rejects you, it is because you are not okay."
"You had better do it right. If you don't, everyone will know that you are a fraud."
"It is NOT okay to make a mistake."
"You have to be perfect so you can get approval, and if you don't get approval, you are not good enough."
...and so on.
The Illusion of Authority
This inner critic speaks with such a strong illusion of authority that it is tempting to believe what it says. Yet it knows only lies. It knows nothing of who you really are.
When this voice is criticizing you, it is criticizing the "you" that it thinks you are - your ego wounded self. The critic, having come into being to help you survive and protect you from rejection, long ago decided that who you really are is not good enough. When you experienced criticism or rejection from the important people in your life, you likely concluded that you were being rejected because you weren't good enough or lovable enough or worthy enough or smart enough or attractive enough...and so on. You may have had no idea - when you were being judged or rejected rather than loved and accepted - that it had nothing to do with you. You probably had no idea that you cannot CAUSE another person to be critical or rejecting, or to be loving and accepting. You likely had no idea that others' behavior is not under your control.
If you believed that you were causing others to criticize or reject you, you may have decided that who you really are is not good enough. So, you started to criticize and reject yourself as you attempted to create a "self" that would be loved and accepted. The inner critic - your ego wounded self - is the self you created. You came to believe that if you criticized yourself enough, you would make yourself into an acceptable person.
None of this is True
There never was anything wrong with your true self, your essence, your soul. It was, and is, a perfect expression of the source of which we are all a part.
When your wounded self is criticizing you, it is criticizing your looks, your intelligence, or your performance. But none of this is who you are.
Who you are - what is truly worthy, lovable, and valuable about you - is your essential self and your inherent ability to love. Not how you look, not how smart you are, not how much money you have or how big your house is. Your true self is an individualized expression of the divine - which is Love.
Next time you hear the authoritative voice of your inner critic, instead of giving that voice credence, stop listening and move into an Inner Bonding process. Treat that voice with compassion, like a child who acts like it knows everything. Instead of identifying with that voice, open instead to the voice of your true self - the voice of truth coming through you from your higher self.
Do this simply by asking, with a deep desire to learn, "What is the truth?" Your higher self will answer you. This self is the true voice of authority, even though it may be much softer and gentler than the loud voice of your inner critic.
Each time you hear the critical voice, move into Inner Bonding and ask your higher self "What is the truth?" If you take action based on the truth rather than on the false beliefs of your inner critic, you will find yourself feeling much better in so many ways!
Learn to connect with your spiritual Guidance with Unlocking Your Inner Wisdom, A 30-Day at-home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul.
Send this article to a friend Print this article Bookmarked 1 time(s)
|The Voice of Limitation & Transforming Beyond It|
|Stop Giving Away Your Authority & Become Your Own Guru|
|How to Define Your True Self-Worth|
Join the Inner Bonding Community to add your comment to articles and see the comments of others...
Laughter raises our frequency and is healing for our body and soul. Our essence takes life lightly and finds humor even in difficult times. Our wounded self often wants to take things very seriously. Today, choose lightness of being and allow your laughter to flow.
By Dr. Margaret Paul