The 6 Steps of Inner Bonding




Practicing the Six Steps of Inner Bonding leads you along the spiritual path of healing the shame of the ego/wounded self and creating communion with God/Higher Power. Practicing these steps on a daily basis leads to the development of a loving, spiritually-connected Adult. A brief overview of the Six Steps are presented here.





Step One: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings

Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings - the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.

Step Two: Move into the Intent to Learn

Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. In Inner Bonding there are only two possible intents in any given moment:

  • to protect against pain and avoid responsibility for it through trying to control yourself and others
  • to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.

When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving Adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.

Step Three: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self

Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.

Step Four: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance

Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.

Step Five: Take Loving Action

Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your Guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your Guidance that is always here for you.

Step Six: Evaluate Your Action

Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth.

These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process. 




 
 



Daily Inspiration

Let us not deny or judge the wounded part of us that wants control over our feelings, over how others feel about us, and over the outcome of things - and believes we can have this control. Let us consciously choose to control, without judgment, instead of doing it unconsciously; by making it conscious and choosing it, the choice to love ourselves and others, instead of trying to control ourselves and others, becomes available to us.

By

'This was the second time here.  We came last year.  This has been very reinforcing for my Inner Bonding process.  The weekend went too quick.' Kripalu Workshop, 9.12


Joel Floss

"I enjoyed this workshop far more than expected. I got out of it much more than I thought. I thought this would be a fine tuning for me and I discovered it's more hard work ahead. I can see this is what I have to do to live a strong and peaceful life with myself. I want to feel love for me not self-hate."
Ina Klem

testtesttesttesttesttest test test test test test test test test


test

"It was great. I loved the work book, "coaching" sessions to see the processs in real time, and Margaret answering out questions. Thank you this is so powerful! Im grateful to have access to this process!" Kripalu 9.18




"Wonderful, empowering and joyous. I feel this experience has been extremely positive on myself and my [inner] child and I am looking forward to seeing where it will lead me in the future."
Cindy Marks

"Great experience. It was the first time I was exposed to group work and it was empowering, raising my energy level. I enjoyed a sense of community, 'bonding' in this loving for ourselves and other's work. I come back home full of enthusiasm about continuing my work with Margaret and going into deeper levels." Rowe, MA, 4/04
Kashia Coulouvrat