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When we came to our first intensive we were both emotionally drained and ready to walk away from the relationship. Months and months of anger, blaming, shaming, attacking, and withdrawing had taken their toll. We reached our turning point the first day when we both realized the simple truth - through the six steps of the Inner Bonding process - that the real issues were not with the other person, but within our individual selves. Almost miraculously, this simple (simple, not easy!) process not only allowed us to see the real source of our pain, but gave us concrete, incredibly effective tools to change the pain into joy. As a result, we have now reached the deepest most loving space ever in our relationship. Our love is solid and now we have the tools and process to keep it alive.
David Rhodes

'Inner Bonding allowed me to access the very deepest part of my soul.  It helped me get to a place I've never been before, finally to the core of me.  It has been a challenging but amazing experience, one which has changed my life forever.  Margaret was perfect in every way and helped guide me to the bottom and supported me through that experience, and now I know I have finally reached the core, the only way is up.' Santa Barbara Intensive 2.14

"April 3 is the day I was born. July 27, 2001 is the day I began to live! I thank the wonderful people who shared from the heart (throughout this intensive). I started the intensive with tremendous turmoil mixed with an inability to get in touch with my true feelings. I'm leaving these 5 days with a glowing feeling inside. It shines bright from the love I feel for my core essence and from the hope I have for my future based on the "tools" I've been provided. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Margie, Patti, Nancy, Bob and my fellow intensive attendees." Ossining, NY - 7/01
Erika

This was my second Intensive. I'm a 62 year old (fairly "Hot" Grandma) who struggles with alcohol abuse. The past 3 days I have learned "how to", and that I must stand up and speak my truth. I'm quite shy and believed I should be "nice" to my husband and family members. I have been tortured inside by not being honest. I now feel empowered to speak up when things don't feel right. It will be the loving thing to do to my husband who has no idea what he does to contribute to the situation. I'm excited about the possibilities for my future happiness! L.A. Advanced Intensive, 4/07
Mary Campbell

"I was once again amazed at how our group of strangers, together with Dr. Margaret Paul, was able to create such a safe, trusting, and reflective space. No matter what was shared—even the most unusual or vulnerable stories—there was no judgment, only compassion and openness. Intimate experiences were welcomed, and we felt genuinely cared for and supported throughout. Dr. Margaret Paul was able to get to the root of the problem quickly and effortlessly, almost as if she were looking at us with an X-ray. It was incredibly helpful to see our wounds clearly and to understand what we can do to release unhelpful inner beliefs and, instead, build trust in ourselves." March 2026 Intensive

When David and I set out for this couples workshop, we were both filled with anger and blame towards the other person. I decided before I started to get rid of that feeling and try to find my peace of mind. I found that and so much more. I discovered that I had a wounded, abandoned child that I had not been taking care of. Once I opened up and became a loving adult taking care of my inner child, I felt more alive. The workshop gave me the tools (the six steps) to connect with my inner spirit and take care of myself. Once I become the loving adult, I can be part of a wonderful relationship.
Joanne Blayman