Communication Skills, Effective Communication
Effective communication and conflict resolution in relationships is the natural outgrowth of being in the intent to learn about loving ourselves and others. No matter how skillful we think we are in effective communication, when our intent is to control rather than learn, we will find ourselves locked into conflict and power struggles.
When being loving, we are not grasping, demanding, needy or clingy, because love has nothing to do with getting or taking. We give freely, to ourselves and to others. We also receive graciously when the gift is freely given. When being unloving, we may try to manipulate a gift - whether it be of time, money, attention, emotional support, approval, sex or affection - but when we are loving we know that a gift not freely given is not really a gift. Notice when you are being loving or unloving.
By Dr. Margaret Paul